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Re: Found this today
« Reply #37 on: May 06, 2011, 06:46:19 PM »
I like these. But I have a little twist on them. Everyday I pick something that I EXPECT myself to do. This is really effective because I don't want to feel like a failure and as long as I expect something reasonabl e, I accomplis h it. A good base for this is "I expect that I am worth not letting down"

I use this with my son as I wake him up.
Gabriel, I expect that you will have good behavior today, and I know you will be able to go the bathroom on time. Today when you get home you will be able to tell me how you and your teacher where able to work together and be a leader for the rest of the class.

Very rarely fails.
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Re: Found this today
« Reply #36 on: May 04, 2011, 09:21:59 AM »
I like these. But I have a little twist on them. Everyday I pick something that I EXPECT myself to do. This is really effective because I don't want to feel like a failure and as long as I expect something reasonabl e, I accomplis h it. A good base for this is "I expect that I am worth not letting down"

I use this with my son as I wake him up.
Gabriel, I expect that you will have good behavior today, and I know you will be able to go the bathroom on time. Today when you get home you will be able to tell me how you and your teacher where able to work together and be a leader for the rest of the class.

Very rarely fails.
~IO
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I am grateful that Spirit is the infinite creativit y that I am.

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Found this today
« Reply #35 on: April 26, 2011, 06:32:52 PM »
Choices of Strength and Healing                                  Positions of Defeat
To choose life.                                                        To consider death as an option.
To have deep inner reasons to live.                             To simply exist or look to others for reasons to live.
To find safety if suicidal feelings are not controlla ble.        To look to others to magically stop suicidal feelings.
To hunger for truth, despite the pain, for freedom.            To run from truth and hope for healing without pain.
To take charge of one?s memory work.                             To delegate memory work to therapist s or others.
To be a loving parent to one?s child parts.                      To seek an external caregiver for one?s child parts.
To be determine d to love oneself.                                 To give into feelings of unworthin ess or defilemen t.
To defeat fear (except truly self-protective fear).            To allow life choices to be fear-driven.
To defeat anger (except truly self-protective anger).        To displace anger onto others or let inner parts do so.
To choose sex only in true, healthy relations hips.              To allow parts to sexually act out or be victimize d.
To discover and process the trauma that causes parts to
want to act out destructi vely or self-destructively.              To allow parts to be destructi ve or self-destructive.
To be a thriver, to have an internal locus of control.         To be a victim, to have an external locus of control.
To be the leader of one?s healing team.                         To want, expect, or demand that others lead.
To connect with others, to have close relations hips.             To isolate.
To be kind and considera te of helpers and loved ones.         To relate to others as if they are not doing enough.
To be financial ly self-sufficient, or work toward this.        To expect others to take responsib ility for one?s life.
To lead. To have a mission to help others.               To be childlike, to look for others to be caretaker s.
Integrati on (or preservin g a few co-conscious parts).            To let dissociat ed parts take executive control.
To be spiritual ly centered.                                          To have a weak spiritual foundatio n.

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Re: Difficult times
« Reply #34 on: February 03, 2011, 03:34:08 PM »
SO happy things are looking up

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Re: Difficult times
« Reply #33 on: February 02, 2011, 10:14:17 AM »
OMG! I love my Mushroom ID class. It is so much fun. This Saturday we are going mushroom hunting and I can't wait. We expect to be finding some good ones. Black Trumpets and Hedgehogs . I explained a mushroom cultivati on project to my teacher and he got excited about it. He want me to show him pic.s.

More good news.
I went to see my school councilor Monday and she said I could easily win a scholarsh ip because of my academic standing.
Yesterday I saw my mental health rehabilit ation specialis t and I was asked to be a guest speaker in a class he is teaching at the college.
I am so excited about other opportuni ties.

As for the little old lady: her family agreed on the dog and he should be coming home real soon.
You all take care.
~IO
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I release my belief in worthless ness.
I release my need for negativit y
I am grateful that Spirit is the infinite creativit y that I am.

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Re: Difficult times
« Reply #32 on: January 28, 2011, 06:09:26 PM »
 School is :y42: so are mushrooms ....sound s like an interesti ng class IW.   :y6: Enjoy!

I also spent time (off the clock) with my elder customers .  A dog is a great idea all around for elderly people.  The sweet customer that I named my daughter after had a dog named munchkin and that dog never left her side.  She would even sign the dogs name on my Christmas cards  :y72: Hope her family lets her get a dog.  It's good protectio n or an alert if something is wrong as well as a companion

 
Confront the dark parts of yourself and work to banish them with illuminat ion and forgivene ss. Your willingne ss to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel as a reminder of your strength. ~August Wilson

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Re: Difficult times
« Reply #31 on: January 28, 2011, 04:11:43 PM »
Good job IO, fill your life with things you love. Even mushrooms! :y2:

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Re: Difficult times
« Reply #30 on: January 28, 2011, 01:23:03 PM »
I know school will be rewarding . So far I love it. I happen to be very passionat e about mushroom and now I get to put that energy into a mushroom identific ation class. I took the class just to have a place just for me. My little old lady is very lonely. I spend extra time (off the clock) visiting with her because she needs the socializa tion for her well being. We are working on proving to her family that she can handle her little dog so he can come home and keep her company.
I hope all is well for you all!
As always:
Peace and Contentme nt
~IO
My Affirmati on:
I release my belief in worthless ness.
I release my need for negativit y
I am grateful that Spirit is the infinite creativit y that I am.

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Re: Difficult times
« Reply #29 on: January 27, 2011, 06:24:14 PM »
Yes good luck IW with the new semester.  :y6: Also with your job working for the older woman.  I used to have a cleaning business and most of my clients that I hold a soft spot for where the older customers .  They truly needed me to clean and do odd things for them around the house  :y3: and some of them really needed the companion ship also. :y11:  I would stay extra just to talk and listen to their interesti ng stories and or advice. :y2:  I even named my daughter (her middle name) after one of the sweet old ladies I worked for.  I hope you can have as positive of an experienc e with this woman as I did with some of my elder customers . :y72:
Confront the dark parts of yourself and work to banish them with illuminat ion and forgivene ss. Your willingne ss to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel as a reminder of your strength. ~August Wilson

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Re: Difficult times
« Reply #28 on: January 25, 2011, 05:28:19 PM »
Good Luck with the new semester! I know its a little overwhelm ing but I think a new semester is exciting. So much to learn. Must be the teacher in me  :y42:

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Re: Difficult times
« Reply #27 on: January 25, 2011, 09:59:04 AM »
 :y149: :y7: :y2: :y13: :y10: :y9: :y95: :y152:
So many emotions going on right now.
It was good to log in today and see that you three have posted here letting me know I still belong. It really is uplifting to me. Thanks so much. An update:
I started my second semester in college yesterday . I am so excited but a little overwhelm ed. I still do not have my books but I did manage to jump through all the hoops fafsa wanted me too. My classes are paid for and soon I will get a small check to help with supplies.
I have been working for a little old lady doing every day stuff that she is too old for.
I am optimisti c about my near future.
Love always.
~IO
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I release my belief in worthless ness.
I release my need for negativit y
I am grateful that Spirit is the infinite creativit y that I am.

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Re: Difficult times
« Reply #26 on: January 22, 2011, 08:50:41 AM »
I know I haven't been here as often... but I am feeling I have lost my place here.


I understan d that feeling very well.  But have no worries you always have a place here.   :1833:

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Confront the dark parts of yourself and work to banish them with illuminat ion and forgivene ss. Your willingne ss to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel as a reminder of your strength. ~August Wilson

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Re: Difficult times
« Reply #25 on: January 21, 2011, 07:47:21 AM »


IO You did not lose yor place here or in my thoughts. Always thinking of you.

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Re: Difficult times
« Reply #24 on: January 20, 2011, 06:39:45 PM »
I know I haven't been here as often... but I am feeling I have lost my place here.
:1834:  IO, that is so not true. You are missed and welcomed here, ALWAYS :15:.  :1827:
I have double checked and verified that all members can freely join the "On Vacation" membergro up.
Likewise, they can leave the group as well.
We appreciat e your posts. :y29:
I'm sure I speak for all our members,
Cloud :y6:


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still living through my changing times..ho pe things are better for all of you..
Broken, unfortuna tely change is a constant in itself  :y30:. All of us, whether survivor or not, resist change :y19:. And why not? Routine is comfortab le :y32:. Knowing what will happen allows us to prepare for good or bad things that are upcoming. It is the not knowing that many find the most troubling :y20:. Once the change has occurred (and has stabilize d) it will become "the norm".  :y50:
Just my thoughts,
Cloud :y6:
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Re: Difficult times
« Reply #23 on: January 20, 2011, 04:02:55 PM »
I know I haven't been here as often... but I am feeling I have lost my place here.
My Affirmati on:
I release my belief in worthless ness.
I release my need for negativit y
I am grateful that Spirit is the infinite creativit y that I am.

 

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